“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
When you think of love, romantic love, what comes to mind? Is it a wedding? Is it a first date? Is it cuddling up in front of a fire? Is it romantic nights on beach or mountains or city-scape? Love brings up a number of images for people because love takes many forms. I think of all these things, but I also think of being by my wife’s side while she’s in a hospital bed. I think of holding my children for the first time. I think of silent moments laying in bed together just holding each other close.
Love takes many forms around the world. Love means many things around the world. Of all languages the English language is fairly handicapped in capturing love because we only really have one word for all the types of love there are. What about love between friends, love between family members, love for someone you respect, love for the Divine, love for your fellow man? We may use one word for all these types of love, but they are very different things. That said, there are some universals across the various types of love:
The focus of this blog is about how to love. It is one of those things that seem so simple but are increasingly more difficult as our lives become increasingly more complex. Initial romance and lust and intimacy are simple in simple times. Sustaining that can be very difficult. So we will start our conversation by simply asking…tell me about your love. What does/did it look like? What does/did it feel like? As we start this new year, I’d like to start us all in the warm happiness of love and build from there.
“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect – you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.”
“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.”