If a woman wants you, nothing can keep her away (not threats, not police, not even a court order)
If she doesn’t want you, nothing can make her stay (not threats, not guilt, not even violence)
Stop making excuses for a woman and her behavior. Even when hormonal she is just as accountable for her actions as you are for yours.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Some women can help you grow, some can help you heal, but if you are the only one being made to change you are neither growing nor healing, you are being molded.
Slower is better, but don’t expect her to wait forever.
If a relationship ends because the woman took you for granted or treated you like shit, then hell no you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you aren’t getting what you want now, you’re not going to get it later.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid women who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different men. She didn’t learn from any of the previous experience, why would she wise up now? Support and provide for another man’s kids and guess what, you still won’t be their father. You could be tied in her pen of men with all the other baby daddies…doesn’t that sound like fun?
Always have your own set of friends separate from hers.
Maintain boundaries in how a woman treats you. You are not a child or a dog or some lesser being.
If something bothers you, speak up!
Never share everything with a woman, she will use it against you later. Still, don’t lie, that she will use against you forever.
You cannot change a woman’s behavior. Change comes from within.
Don’t EVER make her feel she is more important than you are…even if she has more education or she’s in a better job. Do not make her into a Quasi-god. She is a woman, nothing more…nothing less.
Never let a woman define who you are or tell you what you should be.
Never borrow someone else’s woman.
If she cheated with you, she’ll cheat on you.
If she cheats it’s not the other man’s fault, it’s yours (hers and yours). You tried to keep her when she didn’t want to stay (women will always give you signs before then, if you’ll just listen). She wasn’t forthright enough to end it before going on to another man.
If you cheat, it’s the same scenario. Your woman may not see it that way, but it is.
A woman will only treat you the way you allow her to treat you.
Foreplay is not dirty. Sex is not dirty. Kink is not dirty. Fetish is not dirty. Nothing is dirty if you share it in love.
All men are NOT dogs. It’s not something you owe your DNA to act like one.
You need time to heal between relationships. Baggage is both sad and damaging. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to complete you…a relationship consists of two whole individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary.
Dating is fun…even if she doesn’t turn out to be Ms. Right. Still, don’t confuse Ms. Right-Now for Ms. Right.
Make her miss you sometimes. When a woman always knows where you are and you’re always readily available to her, she’ll take it for granted.
Don’t fully commit to a woman who will not give you what you need.Keep her in your radar, but get to know others.
Don’t let any woman cut you off from all others (friends and family), that’s a trap.
Share this with other dudes….. You’ll make someone smile, another rethink his choices, and another man prepare.
© 2012 His-Stor-E